Planning a Jewish wedding is such a meaningful and emotional journey. It’s not just about the logistics, it’s about blending deep-rooted traditions with your own modern love story. And one of the most important decisions you’ll make is choosing the right photographer to capture it all.

As someone who has been photographing Jewish weddings for over a decade, I know how important it is to find a photographer who gets it. Someone who knows when to step back and let the moment unfold naturally, and when to step in and capture that fleeting, beautiful second that you’ll treasure forever.

Jewish weddings are fast-paced, emotional, and deeply sacred. And honestly, you don’t want to be explaining the difference between a Tisch and a Bedeken to your photographer, you want someone who already knows AND understands how it feels to be standing under the Chuppah for her own Jewish wedding.

I’ve had so many Jewish couples come to me with similar questions when they’re searching for the right photographer. That’s why I put together this post. I wanted to give you 150% honest answers and help you feel more confident when making this decision. So let’s dive into some of the biggest questions Jewish couples have about wedding photography.

1. Why Is It Important to Hire a Photographer Who Specializes in Jewish Weddings?

Jewish weddings aren’t like any other weddings and that’s part of what makes them so beautiful. From the Tisch and Bedeken to the Hora, there’s a flow and rhythm to Jewish weddings that’s different from any other type of wedding.

For example, the Tisch (where the groom gathers with his friends and family to sign the ketubah and celebrate) and the Bride sitting on her “thrown” waiting for the Bedeken (where the groom veils the bride) often happen simultaneously. That means you need a photographer who’s prepared to capture both, who is fully aware and experienced in the complete chaos that is the Bedeken and who knows exactly where to stand and where to look when the Bedeken is happening.

Then there’s the chuppah ceremony , the circling, the Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings), the breaking of the glass, the ring and ketubah exchange, each part has its own deep significance. A photographer who understands these traditions will anticipate these moments without needing to be guided. They’ll know where to stand, what lens to use, and how to capture the emotion of the moment without being intrusive.

Jewish weddings also tend to move fast, once the dancing starts, the energy in the room is electric. If your photographer isn’t familiar with this pace, they might miss the action entirely. If the photographer doesn’t know how to jump right into the craziness, they might miss some really incredible moments.

I always tell my couples that hiring someone who truly understands Jewish weddings means you can talk the lingo, relax and focus on the moment, knowing that every meaningful detail is being documented and your photographer knows exactly what is coming next.

2. Do We Need Two Photographers for a Jewish Wedding?

I’m going to be totally honest, for Jewish weddings, having two photographers is almost always a good idea. Here’s why:

• Jewish weddings have a lot of moving parts. The groom’s Tisch is usually in a completely different part of the venue than where the cocktail hour and bride is seated, so having two photographers ensures both sides of the story are covered fully!
• I also find that having two photographers for a Jewish ceremony is absolutely key! 95% of the time, I like to be right by the Chuppah, getting all of the action that is happening underneath the Chuppah and having a second photographer down the aisle, capturing wide angles, action shots from a far, and guest reactions! It allows me to really concentrate on the emotion, love and personalities under the Chuppah, while still not missing any of the epic wide shots.
• During the Jewish dancing, it’s absolute joyful chaos, and you’ll want someone capturing the wide shots of the whole dance floor while someone else is zoomed in on your face as you’re being lifted into the air.
• If you’re having an Orthodox wedding where there’s separate dancing, it’s essential to have a photographer on each side to capture the full experience. We don’t want any awesome dance move or important moment missed!

3. What Are the Key Moments a Jewish Wedding Photographer Should Capture?

Every wedding is different, but for Jewish weddings, there are certain moments that are absolutely essential to document:

The Tisch – The groom (and in more modern weddings, the bride as well) surrounded by his friends and family, the energy building as the ketubah is being signed.

The Bedeken – That emotional moment when the groom sees his bride and veils her. I also find this moment really feels like a community affair. It’s not just a couple celebrating and participating, but the entire community celebrating and participating.

Walking Down the Aisle – The tradition of being escorted by your parents is such a powerful moment.

Under the Chuppah – The circling, the vows, the blessings — this is the heart of the ceremony.

Breaking the Glass – The triumphant moment followed by song and dance!

The Hora – The sheer joy of being lifted into the air while everyone dances around you.

Family Portraits – Jewish weddings are about family and legacy — you’ll treasure these photos for generations.

Reception and Dancing – The speeches, the wild energy of the shtick and the epic dance moves, these are the moments you’ll want to relive over and over.

A photographer who knows Jewish weddings will be in the right place at the right time for every single one of these moments, without needing to be told.

Trust me when I say, it makes your life a lot easier on your wedding day.

4. How Do We Incorporate Jewish Traditions Into Our Wedding Photos?

One of my favorite things about photographing Jewish weddings is how meaningful and personal the traditions are. I always tell my couples: if it’s meaningful to you, it means something to me so let’s capture it.

Some of my favorite ways to incorporate Jewish traditions into wedding photos:

• Holding the ketubah during portraits
• Capturing the emotional exchange of rings under the chuppah
• Photographing the groom’s tallit draped over the couple during the ceremony
• Showcasing the breaking of the glass from different angles
• Family heirlooms — like your grandmother’s kiddush cup or your grandfather’s tallit — woven into the details

The key is to tell your story, not just recreate what other couples have done.

5. What’s the Best Way to Schedule Photos Around the Ceremony and Reception?

Timing a Jewish wedding can be tricky, but it all comes down to good communication and a solid plan. Here’s how I typically recommend scheduling the photography:

At the end of the day, you don’t get a second chance to capture these moments, so having that extra set of eyes makes all the difference.

First Look: If you’re doing a first look, it’s best to schedule it about 2.5 hours before the ceremony. This gives you time for couple portraits, wedding party photos, and family shots before the ceremony starts.

Family Portraits: If you don’t have time before the ceremony, set aside 20–30 minutes immediately after the ceremony for family portraits. This ensures everyone is still gathered and looking their best.

Golden Hour: If your wedding is in the late afternoon or early evening, carving out 10–15 minutes during golden hour (the hour before sunset) can give you the most beautiful, soft light for romantic couple portraits.

If your wedding is on a Saturday evening after Shabbat, you may need to adjust the timing slightly to respect Shabbat restrictions. An experienced Jewish wedding photographer will know how to work within these guidelines while still capturing everything beautifully.

6. How Far in Advance Should We Book Our Photographer?

Most Jewish couples book their wedding photographer 6 – 12 months before their wedding date. While some couples plan further out (especially for popular dates in the spring and fall), this is more than enough time to secure a photographer who specializes in Jewish weddings.

That said, if you’re getting married during a busy season or on a holiday weekend, it’s always a good idea to reach out as soon as you have your date locked in. And if your wedding is coming up sooner than that, don’t panic! I’ve had couples book me just a week before their wedding, and we made it work beautifully. The key is to reach out early, communicate your needs, and find someone who understands the unique flow of a Jewish wedding.

7. How Do We Find a Jewish Wedding Photographer Who Understands Our Traditions?

My advice: ask direct questions. Here’s what you want to know:

• Have you photographed Jewish weddings before?
• Are you familiar with Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform traditions?
• Can you capture the Tisch and Bedeken at the same time?
• Do you understand the flow of a Jewish wedding ceremony?
• Are you up for the crazy chaos of Jewish dance floors?

A photographer who knows Jewish weddings will not only answer “yes” — they’ll probably light up with excitement at the thought of photographing your big day.

At the end of the day, your Jewish wedding is about more than just the ceremony, it’s about your love story, your heritage, and the people who are showing up to celebrate with you.

Choosing the right photographer means finding someone who not only knows how to work a camera but also knows and really feels why each moment matters. From the emotional walk down the aisle to the wild energy of the Bedekin, all the way to the The “Mezinka” or “broom dance”, you deserve to have someone who understands the heart behind it all.

If that sounds like the kind of photographer you’re looking for, what are you waiting for, let’s chat. I’d be honored to capture your day in a way that feels true to you and your story.

Planning a Jewish wedding in just six months might seem overwhelming, but with the right organization, it’s absolutely possible. Whether you’re incorporating Orthodox, Conservative, Reform, or modern Jewish traditions, this checklist will help you stay on track and ensure every important detail is covered. From choosing a rabbi to finalizing your ketubah, here’s your step-by-step guide to planning a meaningful and beautiful Jewish wedding in half a year.

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Month 1: Lay the Foundation

Set the Date and Secure Your Key Vendors

• Choose Your Wedding Date: Consider the days that are traditionally avoided for Jewish Weddings such as Shabbat, Jewish holidays, and other important dates (like the Omer for Orthodox Weddings).
• Book Your Venue: Make sure it accommodates Jewish customs such as kosher catering and a designated space for the chuppah, Tisch and Bedekin if you are planning on having all three.
• Hire a Rabbi or Officiant: Schedule a meeting to discuss ceremony details and any religious requirements.
• Secure Your Photographer and Videographer: Ensure they understand Jewish traditions and can capture all key moments.
• Book a Band or DJ: Confirm they can play traditional Jewish music for the hora and other important dances.
• Determine Your Budget: Outline costs and prioritize spending.
• Draft a Guest List: Start gathering addresses for invitations.

Begin Pre-Wedding Traditions

• Engagement Party: Plan a l’chaim or formal celebration if desired.
• Pre-Marital Counseling: Some rabbis require couples to attend sessions or Bride + Groom classes or Torah classes before the wedding.

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Month 2: Plan Your Ceremony & Attire

Finalize Jewish Wedding Rituals

• Select Your Ketubah: Choose a design and confirm the text with your officiant.
• Decide on Chuppah Design: Rent or create a meaningful canopy for your ceremony. If you are looking to include florals on your chuppah, your florist should already have the Chuppah foundation for you!
• Plan Your Bedeken & Tisch: If incorporating these traditions, coordinate with your rabbi and start discussing how you want your Tisch and Bedekin to come to life. Each couple has a different vision for this and no matter how you plan it, it will be extremely meaningful and special.
• Select Sheva Brachot Honorees: Choose loved ones to recite the seven blessings during the ceremony under the Chuppah and at the post-wedding sheva brachot. In some sects of Judaism, this is done by the Rabbi!
• Order Kippot: Personalize yarmulkes for guests if desired.

Choose and Order Wedding Attire

• Bride’s Dress and Accessories: Consider modesty preferences and if the Rabbi has any kind of restrictions, keep that in mind!
• Groom’s Attire: Ensure a well-fitted suit and consider a kittel if following Orthodox customs.
• Schedule Dress & Suit Fittings: Ensure plenty of time for alterations.

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Month 3: Invitations & Catering

Send Invitations & Manage RSVPs

• Design and Order Invitations: Include Hebrew text if desired.
• Create a Wedding Website: Share details about Jewish customs, schedule, and RSVP options.
• Book Hotel Blocks: Reserve accommodations for out-of-town guests.

Plan the Wedding Menu

• Choose Your Menu: Ensure they can provide the menu that works best for you and your wedding party.
• Plan the Bar: Select wine for the ceremony and celebratory drinks for the reception.
• Select the Wedding Cake and Desserts: Sometimes the best part of the meal!

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Month 4: Finalize Details

Confirm Vendors & Ceremony Plans

• Meet with Your Rabbi: Go over final ceremony details.
• Review Ketubah Text: Ensure accuracy and final approval from the officiant.
• Plan the Music List Coordinate with the band or DJ.
• Finalize Wedding Favors: Consider something that is unique and special to you as a couple.
• Schedule Hair & Makeup Trials: Find the perfect look for the big day.

Pre-Wedding Traditions

• Start considering the Mikvah Visit: Typically done a few days before the wedding but starting to research where and when is best for you and your personal experience is a good idea to consider a couple months before the wedding.
• Plan the Aufruf: If having an aliyah at synagogue, coordinate with the rabbi.

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Month 5: Final Preparations

Confirm Logistics

• Create a Wedding Day Timeline: Ensure everyone knows where they need to be.
• Assign Wedding Day Roles: Designate people for traditions like the Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings), Ketubah signing and wearing your Jewelry when you are under the chuppah.
• Confirm Final Guest Count: Provide the number to your caterer and venue.

Get Ready for the Big Day

• Pack for Your Wedding Night & Honeymoon: If leaving right after the celebration.
• Pick Up Wedding Attire: Ensure all accessories and shoes are included. I always tell my couples to put all of your accessories and whatever details you want photographed at the beginning of the day in a box as you get them so you do not forget or misplace anything!
• Prepare a Wedding Day Emergency Kit: Include essentials like safety pins, tissues, and extra bobby pins.

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Month 6: Enjoy the Celebration

The Final Week

• Have Your Mikvah Visit: A significant spiritual preparation before marriage.
• Rehearse the Ceremony: Go over final details with your officiant and whomever else needs to know what is going on!
• Get Plenty of Rest: Enjoy this exciting and sacred moment in your life!

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A six-month timeline can be a little daunting at time, but with proper organization, you can create a beautiful and meaningful Jewish wedding. Focus on what matters most, celebrating your love and honoring Jewish traditions.A six-month timeline can be a little daunting at times, but with proper organization, you can create a beautiful and meaningful Jewish wedding. Focus on what matters most—celebrating your love, bringing together family and friends, and honoring Jewish traditions that have been passed down for generations. Every detail, from choosing the perfect chuppah to selecting who will recite the Sheva Brachot, contributes to making your wedding day a deeply personal and unforgettable experience.

Remember, while planning is important, the heart of a Jewish wedding is the sacred commitment you are making to each other. Embrace the process, and don’t stress over perfection—what truly matters is the joy, the love, and the memories you create together. Lean on your family, friends, and vendors who understand your vision and can help bring it to life.

If you’re looking for a photographer who not only captures the beauty of your wedding but also understands the significance of each Jewish tradition, I’d love to help. From the excitement of the Tisch to the emotional moment of the Bedeken, from the chuppah ceremony to the high-energy hora, I’ll be there to document it all with an eye for both artistry and authenticity. Let’s work together to create images that will tell the story of your wedding day for generations to come.

Need a photographer who understands Jewish wedding traditions? Let’s capture your special day! Contact me today to discuss your wedding photography needs.

Mazel tov and happy planning!

Being a Jewish photographer is more than just a profession for me, it is a calling, a privilege, and a deeply personal journey. Every time I witness a couple standing beneath the chuppah, a young child beaming with pride at their Bar or Bat Mitzvah, or a Jewish newborn cradled lovingly in their parents’ arms, I feel a profound connection to my heritage. These moments don’t just fill my camera with beautiful images; they fill my soul with pride, healing, and a renewed sense of purpose.

Why I Love Being a Jewish Photographer

Jewish traditions are rich with meaning, history, and emotion. From the ancient customs of our weddings to the powerful coming-of-age ceremonies of our children, every milestone is infused with something greater than just a celebration, it is a reaffirmation of our identity, resilience, and faith. To capture these moments as a Jewish photographer is not just about taking pictures; it is about preserving legacies, telling stories, and strengthening our collective memory.

When I photograph a Jewish wedding, I am not just capturing a union between two people, I am documenting centuries of tradition coming to life in a new way. The chuppah, a beautiful symbol of the home a couple will build together, holds so much weight in our culture. Every time I see a couple standing beneath it, surrounded by loved ones, I am reminded of the strength of Jewish families and the deep-rooted values that bind us together. The blessings, the breaking of the glass, and the joyous dancing that follows all reflect a love that is deeply intertwined with faith and history.

The Emotional Power of Jewish Milestones

It is not just weddings that make me proud to be a Jewish photographer, it is all of our meaningful milestones. Every time I photograph a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, I see the next generation stepping into their Jewish identity with pride. There is something incredibly moving about watching a 13-year-old stand before their family and friends, reading from the Torah, and embracing their place in our people’s story. I see the generations that came before them, the struggles and triumphs that brought them to this moment, and the bright future that lies ahead. Documenting these moments feels like an act of preservation, ensuring that their journey into Jewish adulthood is forever remembered.

And then there are moments like the birth of a Jewish child. The arrival of a newborn in our community is more than just the beginning of a new life; it is the continuation of a story that has endured for thousands of years. Photographing a baby’s bris or naming ceremony is one of the most profound experiences I have as a photographer. There is something so powerful, healing and hopeful about capturing a new generation, knowing that our traditions, faith, and identity will live on through them.

The Power of Family and Engagement Sessions

Family sessions and engagement sessions hold a special place in my heart as well. Whether it’s a young couple joyfully sharing their engagement story, or a family gathering together to celebrate their bond, these sessions give me the opportunity to photograph Jewish love in all its forms. There’s a beautiful intimacy in these moments—capturing the tenderness, laughter, and connection between family members or future spouses reminds me of the strength and beauty of our shared heritage.

Engagement sessions are a celebration of the future. It’s an honor to document a couple beginning their journey toward building their own family and future, with their Jewish faith and traditions at the center of that commitment. Similarly, family sessions are an opportunity to preserve the timeless connections between loved ones. From a family’s first celebration after the birth of a child to grandparents surrounded by grandchildren, these sessions remind me of how love, tradition, and faith continue to bind us all together.

How Photography Heals My Heart

As a Jewish photographer, every moment I capture is a small act of healing. We live in a world where being Jewish is sometimes met with challenges, where our traditions and identity can feel threatened, specially since October 7th. But every time I see a couple under the chuppah, every time I see a proud Bar or Bat Mitzvah standing tall, and every time I see a Jewish newborn cradled in love, it restores my faith in the beauty and resilience of our people. We are strong, we are hopeful, we never give up on our beliefs and ourselves. We support one another and even during some of the most painful moments, we are proud to be Jewish and we continue to hold on to the comfort and strength of our people.

Photography has the power to remind us who we are. It allows us to look back on the joyous moments and see the strength that carried us through. For me, every photo I capture is a celebration of Jewish life, love, and continuity. I take pride in knowing that my work is more than just images, it is a testament to the unbreakable spirit of our people.

The Importance of Preserving Jewish Stories

Our history is one of resilience, and every image I take is a way of ensuring that our customs and celebrations continue to be remembered and cherished. Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, newborn ceremonies, engagement sessions, and family portraits are not just personal milestones; they are communal victories, reminders that Jewish life continues to flourish despite any obstacles, despite all the hate and despite the hardships we go through as a people. There is a light beyond the hardship and it is all of us, continuing to honor and cherish our culture and community.

Being a Jewish photographer means that I am not just an observer, I am an active and proud participant in these sacred moments. I understand the weight of each tradition, the significance of every ritual, and the emotions behind each celebration. My goal is to capture not just what these moments look like but what they feel like, to preserve the warmth, the laughter, the tears of joy, and the overwhelming sense of belonging that comes with being part of the Jewish people.

Why I Am Proud to Be a Part of This Culture

At the heart of my work is immense gratitude. I am grateful to be a witness to so many powerful Jewish moments, to be entrusted with capturing them, and to be part of a community that values love, tradition, and connection. Every wedding, every Bar or Bat Mitzvah, every engagement, and every new life that I photograph strengthens my own Jewish identity. It reminds me that our traditions are not just relics of the past but living, breathing celebrations of who we are.

Photography is my way of giving back to my community. My goal is to ensure that the beauty of Jewish life is documented and cherished for future generations. Every time I pick up my camera, I do so with a deep sense of purpose, knowing that I am preserving not just memories, but the heart and soul of our people.

In a world that often challenges our identity, Jewish photography is my way of saying, “We are here. We are proud. And we will continue to celebrate our traditions, our milestones, and our love for generations to come.”

A Jewish wedding is a day filled with beautiful traditions, heartfelt moments, and joyous celebrations. Capturing every aspect of this special occasion requires a well-structured timeline to ensure no moment is missed. Below is a detailed wedding photography timeline that helps keep everything organized while allowing time for the couple to be present with the people that matter the most.

Wedding Photography Timeline

11:30 – 12:15 | Bride’s Details & Final Touches

• Main Photographer Photographs Bride’s Details
  Make sure to have all your bridal details together in one spot (i.e. all three rings, shoes, invitation suite, jewelry, perfume, veil, etc.). These details set the tone for the day and are an important part of telling your wedding story.
• Associate Photographer Captures Final Touches of Hair & Makeup
  The final moments of hair and makeup application are perfect for capturing the bride’s anticipation and excitement as the day officially begins!

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12:15 – 1:00 | Bride & Groom Prep

• Main Photographer Photographs the Bride Getting Into Her Dress
  This is when it starts getting REAL. The emotions, the nerves, the excitement—it all comes together as the bride steps into her wedding gown.
• Associate Photographer Captures Groom Getting Ready
  Tying ties, buttoning jackets, and adjusting cufflinks—this is a great opportunity to capture candid and refined portraits of the groom and his groomsmen.

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1:00 – 1:15 | Bridal & Groom Solo Portraits

• Main Photographer Captures the Bride’s Solo Portraits
  These timeless images showcase the bride in all her beauty before she walks down the aisle.
• Associate Photographer Captures the Groom’s Solo Portraits
  Strong and dapper, these portraits highlight the groom’s excitement and confidence before seeing his bride.

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1:15 – 1:30 | Walk to the First Look

• A quiet moment before the couple sees each other for the first time. This short walk allows anticipation to build, making the first look even more special.

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1:30 – 1:45 | First Look

• One of my favorite moments of the day!! Such a beautiful and intimate moment, filled with such emotion as the couple sees each other for the first time.

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1:45 – 2:15 | Couple Portraits

• Romantic, joyful, and full of love—these portraits capture the couple’s excitement and happiness before the ceremony begins.

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2:15 – 2:30 | Bride with Bridesmaids

• These shots capture the bride with her closest friends and family, celebrating this once-in-a-lifetime moment.

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2:30 – 2:45 | Full Bridal Party Portraits

• Lively, elegant, and full of energy—this is where the entire bridal party comes together for fun and classic group shots.

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2:45 – 3:00 | Groom with Groomsmen

• These portraits highlight the friendship and joy of the groom with his best friends and family members.

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3:00 – 3:30 | Family Formals

• Capturing family members in various groupings ensures everyone gets their moment in front of the camera. These images will be cherished for generations to come.

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3:30 – 4:00 | Couple’s Break & Venue Details

• Bride & Groom Hide, Rest & Retouch
  A much-needed moment of calm before the ceremony.
• Main Photographer & Associate Capture Ceremony and Reception Decor
  The chuppah, floral arrangements, table settings, and personalized details deserve their moment in the spotlight too!

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4:00 – 5:00 | Tisch & Bedeken

• The Tisch (groom’s gathering) and Bedeken (veiling ceremony) are essential parts of a Jewish wedding. These emotional and meaningful traditions set the spiritual tone for the ceremony.

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5:00 – 5:45 | Wedding Ceremony

• The moment we’ve all been waiting for! The chuppah, vows, blessings, and the breaking of the glass—it all comes together in this sacred moment.

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5:45 – 6:05 | Yichud Room

• The couple’s first private moments together as husband and wife. A truly special time to capture love, joy, and excitement.

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6:15 – 6:30 | Grand Entrance

• The energy is high, and the celebration officially begins as the couple makes their way into the reception!

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6:30 – 8:00 | Reception & Dancing

• From the hora to heartfelt speeches, every moment is filled with emotion, love, and joy. Our goal is to capture all of the laughter, excitement, and energy as the celebration unfolds.

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8:00 – 8:10 | Sunset Portraits

• Golden hour is the perfect time for intimate husband-and-wife portraits. With the sun setting behind them, these images have a soft, romantic glow.

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8:10 – 10pm | Reception & Final Moments

• Dancing, cake cutting, and celebrating into the night—our team stays until we’ve captured every incredible moment of the evening.

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A well-planned timeline ensures that no special moment is missed and that the couple can truly enjoy their day without feeling rushed. Every Jewish wedding is unique, and this schedule can be adjusted to fit specific traditions and preferences. The key is to leave enough room for spontaneity and joy while still keeping the day structured and smooth.

At Yael Pachino Photography, we specialize in capturing the beauty and traditions of Jewish weddings, ensuring that every memory is preserved with love and artistry. If you’re planning your wedding, we’d love to be part of your day! Reach out to us to discuss your vision and how we can make it come to life through stunning photography.

Mazel tov and happy planning!

Jewish weddings are rich in tradition, symbolism, and culture, making them incredibly meaningful for couples, families and the entire community as a whole.

Whether you’re attending a Jewish wedding, planning your own, or just interested in the unique customs involved, this article will explain everything you need to know about Jewish wedding traditions and their significance!

1. Chuppah

The chuppah is a canopy under which the couple stands during their wedding ceremony. Symbolizing the home the couple will build together, it’s a beautiful representation of shelter, protection, and love.

The chuppah is often held up by four poles and can be decorated with flowers or fabric. The open sides of the chuppah are meant to represent the couple’s willingness to welcome friends and family into their new home.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.

The chuppah is a central aspect of Jewish wedding ceremonies, and the design can vary greatly depending on personal style and preference.

While some couples opt for simple wooden structures, others go all-out with elaborate designs featuring fabric, flowers, or even greenery. A unique chuppah helps add a personal touch to the ceremony and sets the tone for the wedding! Your florist and Event Planner can help bring your Chuppah vision to life!

2. Ketubah

A ketubah is the Jewish marriage contract. It’s an important document outlining the couple’s obligations to each other. Traditionally, it’s signed by two witnesses and is often beautifully decorated.

After the wedding, the ketubah is typically displayed in the couple’s home as a reminder of their commitment.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.

The ketubah is not just a legal document; it’s also a deeply emotional part of the wedding ceremony. It outlines the rights and responsibilities of the husband toward the wife, ensuring that she will be supported and cared for.

While the ketubah is traditionally written in Aramaic, many modern couples today choose to have it in English, Hebrew or both Hebrew and English, especially in Reform weddings.

3. Sheva Brachot

The Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings) are recited during the wedding ceremony and at the end of the Reception right after everyone recites the prayers of Grace after Meals.

These seven blessings are also recited at the subsequent seven days of celebrations, typically at a dinner. These blessings express gratitude for the creation of the world, joy in the couple’s union, and the hope for a future filled with love and peace.

The Seven blessings are traditionally said in Hebrew, but many couples choose to have both the Hebrew blessings and English versions of the blessings under the Chuppah. Having both is a beautiful way to include tradition with a modern twist to make sure everyone can appreciate the special blessings.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.

These blessings include words of praise for God’s creation, the gift of marriage, and the celebration of love and life. In many Jewish wedding traditions, these blessings are recited in Hebrew, and family members and friends take turns reciting them at the wedding celebration.

These blessings are repeated during the week-long festivities that follow the wedding, known as Sheva Brachot dinners.

4. Kabbalat Panim

Before the wedding ceremony, the kabbalat panim is the reception where the bride and groom are greeted by family and friends. Traditionally, the bride and groom are separated, and each receives guests in their respective areas.
Common in Orthodox and Conservative weddings, though not a standard practice in Reform weddings.

The kabbalat panim is a time of joyful celebration before the wedding ceremony begins.

While the groom and bride traditionally celebrate separately, the mingling and excitement build anticipation for the ceremony. This tradition allows both families and friends to enjoy the occasion together before the formalities begin.

5. Tisch

The tisch is a traditional pre-wedding gathering where the groom, family, and friends celebrate together before the ceremony.

It’s often lively and includes singing and dancing, especially with the groom’s male relatives and friends. The groom is usually seated at the head of the table, and the atmosphere is filled with joy and excitement.

The tisch sets the stage for the festivities to come and allows the groom to relax and enjoy the support of his loved ones.
Common in Orthodox and Conservative weddings, but not typically observed by Reform Jews.

The tisch is a key part of the Orthodox and Conservative Jewish wedding experience. The groom’s close friends and family gather around, singing and sharing moments of joy before the ceremony.

It’s a time for the groom to relax and focus on the joy of the occasion before the formalities of the wedding.

It is a cherished tradition for the groom to share words of Jewish wisdom. As he speaks, his family and friends joyfully interrupt with songs and dance, infusing the moment with lively celebration and communal spirit.

6. Bedekin

The bedekin is the veiling ceremony that takes place just before the couple’s wedding ceremony. The groom places a veil over the bride’s face, symbolizing modesty and the groom’s acceptance of the bride’s inner beauty.

During an Orthodox and Conservative wedding, this usually takes place right after the Tisch. The groom walks or dances his way to the bride with the whole community with him, once he is in front of the bride, he goes to her and puts the veil over her head to cover her face.
Commonly practiced by Orthodox and Conservative Jews, though some Reform weddings may include it based on personal preference.

The bedekin is a beautiful and symbolic ritual, highlighting the groom’s commitment to his bride.

It’s a moment of intimacy before the ceremony begins, and it is a very traditional part of Orthodox and Conservative Jewish weddings. It is also a time for the families to come together and celebrate the union. In Reform weddings, the veil may be less emphasized, and couples may choose to focus on other elements of the ceremony.

7. Ring Exchange

During the ceremony, the couple exchanges rings as a sign of their commitment to one another. In Jewish tradition, the groom typically places the ring on the bride’s index finger and recites a blessing.

The ring is traditional a gold band. A simple, unbroken circle shape represents a marriage without conflict or distraction. 
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.

The ring exchange is one of the most important moments in the Jewish wedding ceremony.

In Orthodox traditions, the ring is given without any markings or gemstones, representing the couple’s pure and eternal bond.

While this is the most common custom, Reform Jews may opt for a ring that has more personalization, such as engraving or the inclusion of gemstones.

8. Breaking the Glass

At the end of the wedding ceremony, the groom (and sometimes along side the bride) breaks a glass, typically wrapped in a cloth, with his foot.

This act has multiple interpretations, including the reminder of the destruction of the ancient Temple in Jerusalem and the hope that the couple’s marriage will be filled with both joy and sorrow, as life is full of contrasts.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.

Breaking the glass is one of the most iconic traditions at Jewish weddings.

The sound of the glass shattering symbolizes the breaking of the couple’s past life as they begin their new life together. In some traditions, guests shout “Mazel Tov!” immediately after the glass is broken, signaling the celebration of the couple’s future.

9. Yichud

After the ceremony, the couple spends a few moments in private, called yichud. This tradition allows the couple to be alone together for the first time as newlyweds, reflecting on the commitment they’ve just made. It also symbolizes their new status as a married couple.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.

The yichud period is a moment of quiet reflection and intimacy after the chaos of the wedding ceremony. The couple is in a secluded room where they can enjoy their first moments as husband and wife.

This practice is observed in both traditional and more modern Jewish weddings, providing a peaceful pause in the celebration.

In both Orthodox and Conservative traditions, the Rabbi will inspect the Yichud room beforehand to ensure it is properly secluded and free of any other guests.

Once the bride and groom enter and settle into the room, the door is closed behind them, and two witnesses stand guard outside to ensure their privacy, maintaining the sacredness of this intimate moment.

10. Chatan and Kallah

In Jewish weddings, the groom is referred to as the chatan and the bride is called the kallah.

These terms reflect the couple’s roles in the wedding ceremony and signify the joyous occasion.
Common across all branches: Orthodox and Conservative

The terms chatan (groom) and kallah (bride) are used throughout the wedding ceremony to refer to the couple. These words are a sign of respect and are used when referring to the individuals being united in marriage.

While they are commonly used across all Jewish traditions, you may also hear these terms in other aspects of Jewish life, such as during blessings or prayers.

Jewish weddings are beautiful, deeply rooted in tradition, and filled with meaningful rituals that symbolize love, commitment, and faith.

Understanding these terms will help you better appreciate the beauty and significance of a Jewish wedding and the many layers of meaning that come with this joyous celebration.

Whether you’re planning the wedding, attending your first Jewish wedding, or something in between, knowing the meanings behind these terms can deepen your connection to the experience.

Jewish weddings are a celebration of love, life, faith and tradition and each term, custom, and ritual plays a vital role in honoring that legacy.

I am the definition of a Type A Personality.

When I was younger, I did everything I could to pretend like I wasn’t. I wanted so badly to be that easy going, relaxed kinda girl who got things done when she got them done and nothing phased me. But I have to be honest, IT WAS ALL A LIE. I love being prepared! I love making plans and having plans for my plans! I love knowing what I am walking into. I have a one track mind and like things to be done effectively and efficiently.

Due to my textbook Type A personality, one thing is for sure, I strive to understand and know as much as possible before I jump head first into any situation. This my friends, is why I ran to my local book store to pick up “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts” by Gary Chapman when I first started dating Robert. It was eye opening. I seriously did not expect it. I mean yes, I’ve had dozens of people recommend this book over the years. I cannot even begin to count the amount of times I have heard someone say “My love language is [Insert appropriate love language here],” yet, here I am, writing an entire blog post about how important it is to read this book, especially before you marry your best friend!

Reading this book helped me understand every single one of my relationships on a deeper, more intimate level. It helped me communicate better with my friends and family. It helped me accept the way others show their love and it helped me recognize that just because I do something out of love, does not mean Robert will do the same thing.

I don’t take book recommendations lightly, so when I say, I highly recommend reading “The 5 Love Languages” before you walk down the aisle, I mean it! Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it takes commitment, time and patience. Starting your marriage off with a deeper understanding of how you and your partner express love is a great starting point. Now don’t get me wrong, I have many other amazing book recommendations for bride and grooms to be. This is just the beginning. But, if I had to pick just one book for all of my YP couples to read before they say “I Do,” this book would be it!

So, I leave you with this thought… Do you know what love language your fiance speaks?

I don’t know if you guys know this about me, but I have two old sisters, Becca and Shana.

They have always been my biggest role models and my strongest advocates. They have always showed me the way by achieving greatness in their studies, their personal lives and even killing it on the basketball court. Now, more than ever, I admire them. I admire them for the strong, beautiful relationships they have with their husbands. I admire them for the incredible bond they have nurtured and created with each of their children. And I admire them for the courageous and independent women who they continue to be each and every day.

Basically, they are super women and I am lucky to be their little sister.

Simcha and Moshe (aka brother-in-laws) are both a close 3rd when it comes to role models. I can talk to them about anything and they will give me honest and loving responses and I am lucky to be their sister too.

When it comes to advice, these four awesome humans are always the ones I turn to, and never once have they steered me wrong. That’s why, I am excited to share with you”3 things you should do before you tie the knot!” Three things my sisters and brother-in-laws advice me to do before I get married. Five pieces of advice to make sure you start your marriage off on the right foot.

1. Constantly ask yourself what can I do for my fiance

Focus on each other instead of yourselves. Think about what you can give to your SO instead of what you can get from them. You can no longer just think about your needs and your desires.  Remember you two are a pair which means, if you put them first and they put you first, everyone will be happy! I am not saying you need to surprise them with a trip to Hawaii every weekend, or you need to just drop whatever you are doing at all times when they call, but if you know your partner is having a rough day, maybe pick up their favorite chocolate on the way home from work or make sure all the dishes are done before they get back… it’s the little things that matter. Start putting them first today, and you will have a very successful marriage tomorrow.

Exercise: Every morning while you are in the shower, sipping your first coffee or the day or walking your puppy, instead of stressing over the tasks of your day, ask yourself this “What does [Insert Fiances Name] have going on today, what can I do to make it easier? What will make them smile today?  If you start doing this today, it will become easier and easier, until it is just second nature.

2. Talk about Finances

I know, this one isn’t anything new, but it is so important to reiterate. Being on the same page concerning your finances before you get married, will be a game changer! Be open about the student loans you owe, the credit card debt you have built up and the credit score you have earned. Financial surprises are going to arise no matter what, be a united front instead of two independent contributors.

So where do you even start? Once you and your fiance have it all out on the table (remember, no surprises!),  begin with discussing what your financial goals are. How was money discussed and dealt with during your upbringing, and if you are going to have separate accounts or joint banking? With these big questions answered, understood and agreed upon, it will help shape your financial relationship moving forward.

Exercise A: Sometimes, it is better to see it than talk about it. That is why I love spreadsheets! Pick one month out of your engagement to write down all of your expenses. Every night before you go to sleep, open up your spreadsheet and write down what money you have spent that day, your fiance should follow suite. Divide it into three categories, (A) Parter One, (B) Partner Two and (C) Both. This way, at the end of the month, when all expenses are accounted for, you both can see exactly who is spending what and what you need to work on to reach the financial goals you desire as a couple.

Exercise B: Swap credit cards for just a month. That’s right, you heard me, that means your partner will have your credit card and you will have theirs. This exercise will help open the financial conversation. This will aid you two to really start thinking about it as “our money” instead of “my money.”

3. Make sure spending time together doesn’t become a choir

As the years go on, your work schedules get crazier, you’ll throw in a dog, two cats and 3 kids. The bills and the duties pile up and a night out with your husband or wife might start feeling like just another responsibility. Don’t let it. Make sure you look forward to that time alone together. Make sure you still get excited to go out with the one person you see every day, the one person you have chosen to built a life together, a family together. Dating doesn’t stop just because you say ” I do”

Exercise: Date night! You don’t need synced Google Calendars to schedule date night, but you do need to put it in! (To be honest though,  synced calendars are always super helpful when two people are co-existing). At the beginning of every week, take a look at your calendars together and choose a day that works best for both of you. Pick a day that you and your partner will not be stressed out trying to make it on time. Choose a night where you can calmly get ready and head out together. Once you are on the date, leave your phones in the car or on airplane mode in your bag. You do not need them! This will keep you and your partner focused on one another during this precious weekly date night. It will help you connect and bond that you and your partner will look forward to your weekly date nights more and more each week.

 

Marriage isn’t easy, but it can be a beautiful and powerful thing when you want it to be. Take the time to cherish your relationship, grow in your partnership and thrive in your unity. I am lucky to be surrounded by incredible marriages and I wish nothing but the best for yours!