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There’s something truly magical about being engaged. That moment when you look at each other and realize: we’re building a life together. If you’re recently engaged, Mazel Tov! Whether you’re still basking in the glow of the proposal or already knee-deep in color palettes and guest lists, this is one of the most meaningful seasons of your life.
As a Jewish wedding photographer who’s captured Jewish weddings all across the East Coast and in Israel for over a decade, I’ve had the joy of witnessing hundreds of couples bring their Jewish traditions to life in beautiful, heartfelt, and deeply personal ways. I also know how overwhelming wedding planning can feel, especially when you’re trying to honor your heritage while staying true to your unique love story.
This blog post is for you, the Jewish couple who wants their wedding to feel like a reflection of who they are, where they come from, and the life they’re building together!
Here are 10 things every Jewish engaged couple should know as you plan your big day:
Whether you’re Orthodox, Reform, Conservative, secular, or somewhere in between, there’s no single “correct” way to have a Jewish wedding. The beauty of our tradition is how rich and layered it is. You can choose to include a traditional ketubah signing, a heartfelt bedecken, or a joyful horah on the dance floor, or all of the above. You can walk around your partner seven times, or meet each other halfway.
The key is this: make it yours. It’s okay to blend modern elements with tradition. Your wedding is a sacred, joyful reflection of your values and your journey.
The chuppah, or wedding canopy, is one of the most symbolic elements of a Jewish wedding. It represents the home you are building together, open on all sides to welcome guests, yet grounded in tradition and intention.
Some couples use a tallit (prayer shawl) passed down from a grandparent, others have custom-made canopies with meaningful embroidery. Whatever you choose, let your chuppah tell a story. It’s not just décor — it’s a visual promise of your future home.
The ketubah isn’t just a marriage contract, it’s a powerful statement of commitment, love and togetherness. Today, couples can choose from traditional Aramaic texts to egalitarian Hebrew/English versions, and even poetic, personalized versions that speak to your values.
You’ll also want to work with an artist or select a design that matches your aesthetic. Many couples frame their ketubah and display it in their home, so think of it as both a legal document and a work of art. Don’t rush it!
I always joke that photographing the hora is like running a marathon with a camera. It’s chaotic, sweaty, emotional, hilarious and so full of love.
If your crowd is the dancing type, make sure to tell your band or DJ in advance so they can build the energy and give it time to unfold. And here’s a tip: wear shoes that stay on. I’ve seen too many heels fly across the dance floor mid-hora.
In Orthodox and traditional Conservative weddings, only the groom signs the ketubah (with two witnesses). The bride typically isn’t present at the signing. But many modern couples are choosing to have both partners sign an egalitarian ketubah or witness each other’s signatures.
Another popular trend is signing the ketubah under the chuppah so that the bride can be present for the moment. Ask your Rabbi what your options are. Jewish tradition is flexible when done with intention.
The Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings) are one of the most sacred parts of a Jewish wedding ceremony, and an opportunity to involve the people who love you.
You can choose to have different friends or family members recite each blessing, in Hebrew or English. These blessings are ancient, poetic, and universal. They speak to joy, creation, and companionship, even if your guests aren’t fluent in Hebrew, they’ll feel the emotion behind them.
Talk to your planner and Rabbi early in the process about incorporating a full 30–45 minutes for the Tisch and Bedeken in your timeline. Make sure your photographer and videographer know these are must-capture moments.
Also, communicate with your family about how important these moments are to you. Whether you want a traditional version or something more modern, set the tone ahead of time.
And if you need help envisioning what a Tisch or Bedeken could look like in a more inclusive or progressive Jewish wedding, please do not hesitate to ask! I’ve got ideas and examples to share!
Whether you’re planning a deeply traditional Orthodox wedding or blending customs in a way that feels more you, the Tisch and Bedeken are powerful moments you’ll carry in your heart forever. Let yourself feel them. Let them hold you. And let your photographer capture them with the reverence and love they deserve.
The traditional Jewish wedding structure looks like this:
But here’s the thing: you don’t have to follow every step. You can have a more streamlined ceremony, blend traditions, or even hold a ketubah signing and cocktail hour on a separate day.
Talk to your Rabbi, planner, and photographer to create a timeline that works for you, logistically and emotionally.
I can’t stress this enough. Jewish weddings move fast, have unique rituals, and are packed with emotional nuance. From the timing of the bedecken all the way to the hora dancing, having a team that understands your traditions means less explaining, more flowing.
When I photograph Jewish weddings, I don’t just document the rituals, I celebrate them and I anticipate them. I know when grandma’s about to tear up, when the rabbi is about to break into song, and when the dancing is going to get wild. That kind of intuitive storytelling only comes from experience and a deep understanding of the Jewish culture.
At every Jewish wedding, I think about the generations who came before us. The grandparents who fled, the ancestors who prayed, the couples who stood under a chuppah in times of peace and in times of war.
As you begin your life together, the sound of that breaking glass calls you to remember that your marriage isn’t just about the two of you, it’s also about your heritage and culture, the kind of home you’ll build, the community you’ll be part of, and the light you’ll bring into the world together.
Getting married as a Jew in 2025 is an act of love and resilience. You are writing the next chapter of a sacred story — one filled with laughter, prayer, dancing and so much joy!
Let that meaning carry you through the stress, the spreadsheets, and the seating charts. Your wedding is about more than centerpieces and first dances. It’s about the life you’re building, rooted in tradition, blossoming with hope.
If you’re engaged and trying to plan a wedding that feels like you, know this: you’re not alone. Lean on your community. Talk to your community. Trust your gut. And most importantly, don’t lose sight of what this whole journey is about; love, commitment, and the joy of building a Jewish home together.
And if you’re looking for someone to document and join in on every tear, every smile, and every spontaneous burst of dancing, you know where to find me!
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The Seven Blessings Explained — With a Modern Twist
The Sheva Brachot, or Seven Blessings, It’s a moment that connects them not just to each other, but to generations before them. Every Jewish Couple who stands under the chuppah have the same seven blessings recited in honor of them, their marriage and their family… It’s an experience like no other.
These blessings are old, like, really old—but don’t let that fool you. They’re not outdated. In fact, they’re kind of brilliant. Each one holds something powerful: joy, gratitude, creation, love, community, hope. And together, they tell a story, not just of the couple in front of us, but of what it means to build a life together that’s rooted, sacred, and full of possibility.
If you’ve ever listened to the blessings and wondered what they mean, or why they matter, you’re not alone. But when you break them down, line by line, they become a roadmap for marriage, not just a wedding.
We’ll look at the original Hebrew, explore the traditional meaning, and give it a modern spin, because these blessings aren’t just poetic, they’re practical. They remind us of what really matters in a marriage: connection, community, joy, and a whole lot of gratitude.
בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם בּוֹרֵא פְּרִי הַגָּֽפֶן
Baruch ata Adonai, Eloheinu melech ha’olam, borei p’ri hagafen.
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who creates the fruit of the vine.
Explanation:
This blessing opens the ceremony. A toast to sacred joy. Wine in Jewish tradition marks holiness, celebration, and spiritual sweetness.
Modern Twist:
It’s your first toast as a couple, like that magical sip of bubbly when you clink glasses and the room melts away. It reminds you to pause, savor, and celebrate life’s sweetness. Love is meant to be savored, like a good glass of wine, slowly, intentionally, with joy.
בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם שֶׁהַכֹּל בָּרָא לִכְבוֹדוֹ
She’hakol bara likhvodo.
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who created everything for His glory.
Explanation:
This blessing places your relationship within a larger purpose. The idea that the world, and your love, exist with intention and meaning.
Modern Twist:
In the whirlwind of planning and party prep, this blessing invites you to zoom out. Your love isn’t just about the two of you, it’s part of something greater. Your partnership brings light to the world. Whether you find glory in tradition, social justice, creativity, or community, your love is a vehicle for impact.
בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם יוֹצֵר הָאָדָם
Yotzer ha’adam.
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who created humanity.
Explanation:
This blessing honors the creation of human beings, the uniqueness and wholeness of each individual.
Modern Twist:
You are each two complete and whole people, with your own stories, past, quirks, and dreams. This blessing celebrates that before you became a couple, you were already worthy and complete. It’s a nod to loving each other for exactly who you are.
בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם אֲשֶׁר יָצַר אֶת הָאָדָם בְּצַלְמוֹ בְּצֶֽלֶם דְּמוּת תַּבְנִיתוֹ וְהִתְקִין לוֹ מִמֶּֽנּוּ בִּנְיַן עֲדֵי עַד. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ יוֹצֵר הָאָדָם
Asher yatzar et ha’adam b’tzalmo…
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who created humanity in His image and established an everlasting union.
Explanation:
This blessing emphasizes that we are made in the Divine image , capable of love, kindness, and deep connection. It also acknowledges the idea of partnership as part of our divine design.
Modern Twist:
Your marriage is more than a contract. You’re building something sacred together, rooted in compassion and mutual respect. This blessing says: Your love reflects something holy, not perfect, but real, raw, and beautiful.
שׂוֹשׂ תָּשִׂישׂ וְתָגֵל הָעֲקָרָה…
Sos tasis v’tagel ha’akara…
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, May the barren one (Jerusalem) rejoice in the ingathering of her children. Blessed are You… who causes Zion to rejoice with her children.
Explanation:
This is a prayer for joy and renewal, symbolized by Jerusalem being reunited with her people. It’s about hope, healing, and collective celebration.
Modern Twist:
This blessing resonates especially deeply with couples who’ve walked through challenge or waited a long time for this moment. It honors the joy that comes after longing, the deep, grateful, grounded joy of coming home to love.
שַׂמֵּֽחַ תְּשַׂמַּח רֵעִים הָאֲהוּבִים…
Sameach t’samach rei’im ha’ahuvim…
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who causes the loving friends to rejoice, as You gladdened Your creations in the Garden of Eden.
Explanation:
This blessing connects romantic love with deep friendship. It’s about joy, mutual delight, and loving each other as best friends.
Modern Twist:
This one’s for the laughter, the shared memes, the weekend coffee runs, the you-had-to-be-there inside jokes. This is the blessing that says: “I married my person.” The one who makes you laugh, keeps you grounded, and dances with you in the kitchen. One of my favorite blessings!
אֲשֶׁר בָּרָא שָׂשׂוֹן וְשִׂמְחָה…
Asher bara sason v’simcha…
Translation: Blessed are You, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, who created joy, gladness, groom and bride, laughter, song, delight, love, peace, and friendship…
Explanation:
This blessing is a crescendo, a vision of a world filled with music, dancing, laughter, and celebration. It ends the Sheva Brachot on a high note.
Modern Twist:
The roaring applause. The spontaneous tears from your grandmother. It’s a call to fill your life with all kinds of joy, quiet joy, loud joy, and everything in between. It’s a reminder to celebrate often, dance freely, and love deeply.
They’re not just blessings. They’re a framework. A heartbeat. A map. They invite you to build your marriage with gratitude, intention, joy, and purpose and to know that your love matters.
These seven ancient phrases may be thousands of years old, but they still speak directly to our hearts, exactly as we are today.
Let these blessings shape more than your ceremony, let them inspire your marriage, let them ground you in times of obstacles, lift you in times of tragedy . And if you need someone to capture the wedding magic, the meaning, and every heartfelt moment in between I’d be honored.
Camera in hand, heart full.
xos, Yael
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Planning a Jewish wedding is such a meaningful and emotional journey. It’s not just about the logistics, it’s about blending deep-rooted traditions with your own modern love story. And one of the most important decisions you’ll make is choosing the right photographer to capture it all.
As someone who has been photographing Jewish weddings for over a decade, I know how important it is to find a photographer who gets it. Someone who knows when to step back and let the moment unfold naturally, and when to step in and capture that fleeting, beautiful second that you’ll treasure forever.
Jewish weddings are fast-paced, emotional, and deeply sacred. And honestly, you don’t want to be explaining the difference between a Tisch and a Bedeken to your photographer, you want someone who already knows AND understands how it feels to be standing under the Chuppah for her own Jewish wedding.
I’ve had so many Jewish couples come to me with similar questions when they’re searching for the right photographer. That’s why I put together this post. I wanted to give you 150% honest answers and help you feel more confident when making this decision. So let’s dive into some of the biggest questions Jewish couples have about wedding photography.
Jewish weddings aren’t like any other weddings and that’s part of what makes them so beautiful. From the Tisch and Bedeken to the Hora, there’s a flow and rhythm to Jewish weddings that’s different from any other type of wedding.
For example, the Tisch (where the groom gathers with his friends and family to sign the ketubah and celebrate) and the Bride sitting on her “thrown” waiting for the Bedeken (where the groom veils the bride) often happen simultaneously. That means you need a photographer who’s prepared to capture both, who is fully aware and experienced in the complete chaos that is the Bedeken and who knows exactly where to stand and where to look when the Bedeken is happening.
Then there’s the chuppah ceremony , the circling, the Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings), the breaking of the glass, the ring and ketubah exchange, each part has its own deep significance. A photographer who understands these traditions will anticipate these moments without needing to be guided. They’ll know where to stand, what lens to use, and how to capture the emotion of the moment without being intrusive.
Jewish weddings also tend to move fast, once the dancing starts, the energy in the room is electric. If your photographer isn’t familiar with this pace, they might miss the action entirely. If the photographer doesn’t know how to jump right into the craziness, they might miss some really incredible moments.
I always tell my couples that hiring someone who truly understands Jewish weddings means you can talk the lingo, relax and focus on the moment, knowing that every meaningful detail is being documented and your photographer knows exactly what is coming next.
I’m going to be totally honest, for Jewish weddings, having two photographers is almost always a good idea. Here’s why:
Every wedding is different, but for Jewish weddings, there are certain moments that are absolutely essential to document:
The Tisch – The groom (and in more modern weddings, the bride as well) surrounded by his friends and family, the energy building as the ketubah is being signed.
The Bedeken – That emotional moment when the groom sees his bride and veils her. I also find this moment really feels like a community affair. It’s not just a couple celebrating and participating, but the entire community celebrating and participating.
Walking Down the Aisle – The tradition of being escorted by your parents is such a powerful moment.
Under the Chuppah – The circling, the vows, the blessings — this is the heart of the ceremony.
Breaking the Glass – The triumphant moment followed by song and dance!
The Hora – The sheer joy of being lifted into the air while everyone dances around you.
Family Portraits – Jewish weddings are about family and legacy — you’ll treasure these photos for generations.
Reception and Dancing – The speeches, the wild energy of the shtick and the epic dance moves, these are the moments you’ll want to relive over and over.
A photographer who knows Jewish weddings will be in the right place at the right time for every single one of these moments, without needing to be told.
Trust me when I say, it makes your life a lot easier on your wedding day.
One of my favorite things about photographing Jewish weddings is how meaningful and personal the traditions are. I always tell my couples: if it’s meaningful to you, it means something to me so let’s capture it.
Some of my favorite ways to incorporate Jewish traditions into wedding photos:
The key is to tell your story, not just recreate what other couples have done.
Timing a Jewish wedding can be tricky, but it all comes down to good communication and a solid plan. Here’s how I typically recommend scheduling the photography:
At the end of the day, you don’t get a second chance to capture these moments, so having that extra set of eyes makes all the difference.
First Look: If you’re doing a first look, it’s best to schedule it about 2.5 hours before the ceremony. This gives you time for couple portraits, wedding party photos, and family shots before the ceremony starts.
Family Portraits: If you don’t have time before the ceremony, set aside 20–30 minutes immediately after the ceremony for family portraits. This ensures everyone is still gathered and looking their best.
Golden Hour: If your wedding is in the late afternoon or early evening, carving out 10–15 minutes during golden hour (the hour before sunset) can give you the most beautiful, soft light for romantic couple portraits.
If your wedding is on a Saturday evening after Shabbat, you may need to adjust the timing slightly to respect Shabbat restrictions. An experienced Jewish wedding photographer will know how to work within these guidelines while still capturing everything beautifully.
Most Jewish couples book their wedding photographer 6 – 12 months before their wedding date. While some couples plan further out (especially for popular dates in the spring and fall), this is more than enough time to secure a photographer who specializes in Jewish weddings.
That said, if you’re getting married during a busy season or on a holiday weekend, it’s always a good idea to reach out as soon as you have your date locked in. And if your wedding is coming up sooner than that, don’t panic! I’ve had couples book me just a week before their wedding, and we made it work beautifully. The key is to reach out early, communicate your needs, and find someone who understands the unique flow of a Jewish wedding.
My advice: ask direct questions. Here’s what you want to know:
A photographer who knows Jewish weddings will not only answer “yes” — they’ll probably light up with excitement at the thought of photographing your big day.
At the end of the day, your Jewish wedding is about more than just the ceremony, it’s about your love story, your heritage, and the people who are showing up to celebrate with you.
Choosing the right photographer means finding someone who not only knows how to work a camera but also knows and really feels why each moment matters. From the emotional walk down the aisle to the wild energy of the Bedekin, all the way to the The “Mezinka” or “broom dance”, you deserve to have someone who understands the heart behind it all.
If that sounds like the kind of photographer you’re looking for, what are you waiting for, let’s chat. I’d be honored to capture your day in a way that feels true to you and your story.
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Planning a Jewish wedding in just six months might seem overwhelming, but with the right organization, it’s absolutely possible. Whether you’re incorporating Orthodox, Conservative, Reform, or modern Jewish traditions, this checklist will help you stay on track and ensure every important detail is covered. From choosing a rabbi to finalizing your ketubah, here’s your step-by-step guide to planning a meaningful and beautiful Jewish wedding in half a year.
Remember, while planning is important, the heart of a Jewish wedding is the sacred commitment you are making to each other. Embrace the process, and don’t stress over perfection—what truly matters is the joy, the love, and the memories you create together. Lean on your family, friends, and vendors who understand your vision and can help bring it to life.
If you’re looking for a photographer who not only captures the beauty of your wedding but also understands the significance of each Jewish tradition, I’d love to help. From the excitement of the Tisch to the emotional moment of the Bedeken, from the chuppah ceremony to the high-energy hora, I’ll be there to document it all with an eye for both artistry and authenticity. Let’s work together to create images that will tell the story of your wedding day for generations to come.
Need a photographer who understands Jewish wedding traditions? Let’s capture your special day! Contact me today to discuss your wedding photography needs.
Mazel tov and happy planning!
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Being a Jewish photographer is more than just a profession for me, it is a calling, a privilege, and a deeply personal journey. Every time I witness a couple standing beneath the chuppah, a young child beaming with pride at their Bar or Bat Mitzvah, or a Jewish newborn cradled lovingly in their parents’ arms, I feel a profound connection to my heritage. These moments don’t just fill my camera with beautiful images; they fill my soul with pride, healing, and a renewed sense of purpose.
Jewish traditions are rich with meaning, history, and emotion. From the ancient customs of our weddings to the powerful coming-of-age ceremonies of our children, every milestone is infused with something greater than just a celebration, it is a reaffirmation of our identity, resilience, and faith. To capture these moments as a Jewish photographer is not just about taking pictures; it is about preserving legacies, telling stories, and strengthening our collective memory.
When I photograph a Jewish wedding, I am not just capturing a union between two people, I am documenting centuries of tradition coming to life in a new way. The chuppah, a beautiful symbol of the home a couple will build together, holds so much weight in our culture. Every time I see a couple standing beneath it, surrounded by loved ones, I am reminded of the strength of Jewish families and the deep-rooted values that bind us together. The blessings, the breaking of the glass, and the joyous dancing that follows all reflect a love that is deeply intertwined with faith and history.
It is not just weddings that make me proud to be a Jewish photographer, it is all of our meaningful milestones. Every time I photograph a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, I see the next generation stepping into their Jewish identity with pride. There is something incredibly moving about watching a 13-year-old stand before their family and friends, reading from the Torah, and embracing their place in our people’s story. I see the generations that came before them, the struggles and triumphs that brought them to this moment, and the bright future that lies ahead. Documenting these moments feels like an act of preservation, ensuring that their journey into Jewish adulthood is forever remembered.
And then there are moments like the birth of a Jewish child. The arrival of a newborn in our community is more than just the beginning of a new life; it is the continuation of a story that has endured for thousands of years. Photographing a baby’s bris or naming ceremony is one of the most profound experiences I have as a photographer. There is something so powerful, healing and hopeful about capturing a new generation, knowing that our traditions, faith, and identity will live on through them.
Family sessions and engagement sessions hold a special place in my heart as well. Whether it’s a young couple joyfully sharing their engagement story, or a family gathering together to celebrate their bond, these sessions give me the opportunity to photograph Jewish love in all its forms. There’s a beautiful intimacy in these moments—capturing the tenderness, laughter, and connection between family members or future spouses reminds me of the strength and beauty of our shared heritage.
Engagement sessions are a celebration of the future. It’s an honor to document a couple beginning their journey toward building their own family and future, with their Jewish faith and traditions at the center of that commitment. Similarly, family sessions are an opportunity to preserve the timeless connections between loved ones. From a family’s first celebration after the birth of a child to grandparents surrounded by grandchildren, these sessions remind me of how love, tradition, and faith continue to bind us all together.
As a Jewish photographer, every moment I capture is a small act of healing. We live in a world where being Jewish is sometimes met with challenges, where our traditions and identity can feel threatened, specially since October 7th. But every time I see a couple under the chuppah, every time I see a proud Bar or Bat Mitzvah standing tall, and every time I see a Jewish newborn cradled in love, it restores my faith in the beauty and resilience of our people. We are strong, we are hopeful, we never give up on our beliefs and ourselves. We support one another and even during some of the most painful moments, we are proud to be Jewish and we continue to hold on to the comfort and strength of our people.
Photography has the power to remind us who we are. It allows us to look back on the joyous moments and see the strength that carried us through. For me, every photo I capture is a celebration of Jewish life, love, and continuity. I take pride in knowing that my work is more than just images, it is a testament to the unbreakable spirit of our people.
Our history is one of resilience, and every image I take is a way of ensuring that our customs and celebrations continue to be remembered and cherished. Weddings, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, newborn ceremonies, engagement sessions, and family portraits are not just personal milestones; they are communal victories, reminders that Jewish life continues to flourish despite any obstacles, despite all the hate and despite the hardships we go through as a people. There is a light beyond the hardship and it is all of us, continuing to honor and cherish our culture and community.
Being a Jewish photographer means that I am not just an observer, I am an active and proud participant in these sacred moments. I understand the weight of each tradition, the significance of every ritual, and the emotions behind each celebration. My goal is to capture not just what these moments look like but what they feel like, to preserve the warmth, the laughter, the tears of joy, and the overwhelming sense of belonging that comes with being part of the Jewish people.
At the heart of my work is immense gratitude. I am grateful to be a witness to so many powerful Jewish moments, to be entrusted with capturing them, and to be part of a community that values love, tradition, and connection. Every wedding, every Bar or Bat Mitzvah, every engagement, and every new life that I photograph strengthens my own Jewish identity. It reminds me that our traditions are not just relics of the past but living, breathing celebrations of who we are.
Photography is my way of giving back to my community. My goal is to ensure that the beauty of Jewish life is documented and cherished for future generations. Every time I pick up my camera, I do so with a deep sense of purpose, knowing that I am preserving not just memories, but the heart and soul of our people.
In a world that often challenges our identity, Jewish photography is my way of saying, “We are here. We are proud. And we will continue to celebrate our traditions, our milestones, and our love for generations to come.”
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As a wedding photographer who has captured so many beautiful Jewish weddings, I’ve seen firsthand how these different traditions come to life. Whether you want a strictly traditional Orthodox ceremony, a meaningful balance of tradition and modernity in a Conservative wedding, or the personal, flexible approach of a Reform wedding, understanding the differences can help you plan a day that truly reflects your love story.
So, let’s break it down and find the right fit for you!
Before we dive into the different traditions, let’s talk about what makes a Jewish wedding… well, Jewish!
No matter the denomination, Jewish weddings usually include:
While these elements remain consistent, how they are performed varies between Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform weddings.
If you’re having an Orthodox wedding, tradition is everything. Orthodox Jewish weddings are deeply connected to Halacha (Jewish law), which dictates how the ceremony is performed.
Contrary to what some might think, Orthodox weddings don’t have to be in a synagogue. Many couples opt for banquet halls, hotels, or even outdoor spaces—so long as the wedding follows Orthodox practices.
Traditionally, the ketubah is signed by two witnesses before the ceremony at the groom’s tisch, while the bride is elsewhere. However, modern Orthodox couples are increasingly choosing to have the ketubah signed under the chuppah so that the bride can be part of the process.
Unlike in some secular weddings where the couple recites vows to each other, the Sheva Brachot are not said by the couple themselves. Instead, different honored guests—often rabbis, family members, or close friends—recite these blessings.
This surprises a lot of people, but an Orthodox wedding does not require a rabbi to officiate! As long as the ceremony follows Orthodox laws and customs, the wedding is valid.
The reception is where things get wild. Expect high-energy dancing, a lively hora, and a truly joyous atmosphere as the couple is hoisted into the air on chairs, dancing in circles with their favorite people and sitting and laughing as friends and family do silly dances and share inside jokes with them during the shtick.
If you’re looking for a wedding that honors Jewish tradition but allows for a little more flexibility, a Conservative ceremony might be your sweet spot. Conservative Judaism upholds Jewish law but allows for modern interpretations.
Unlike Orthodox weddings, men and women typically sit together during the ceremony and reception.
In many Conservative weddings, the ketubah signing still happens before the ceremony with both the bride and groom present, but some couples are embracing the trend of signing it under the chuppah!
The bride may take a more active role in speaking during the ceremony. Some Conservative weddings also include a mutual ring exchange, unlike in Orthodox ceremonies, where only the groom traditionally gives the ring.
Conservative weddings often use a mix of Hebrew and English, ensuring that all guests, regardless of their level of Jewish education, understand the prayers and blessings.
Live music, a rocking hora, and lots of energy are still key elements of the celebration. Conservative weddings tend to be vibrant and joyful, with mixed dancing from the first song, until the last!
If you’re looking for a ceremony that embraces Jewish heritage while allowing for personal touches and inclusivity, a Reform wedding might be the perfect fit. Reform Judaism emphasizes individual choice and modern interpretations of Jewish rituals.
In Reform weddings, both partners typically participate equally in the ceremony. The bride may say vows, exchange rings, and play an active role in every part of the ceremony.
Many Reform couples work with their rabbi to personalize their ceremony. Some include readings from poetry or literature, while others adapt the traditional blessings to make them more egalitarian.
Reform weddings are the most flexible when it comes to location. Koshrut is not a concern here! From synagogues to beaches, gardens, and even art galleries, couples choose venues that reflect their personalities.
While in traditional ceremonies, the groom is the one to break the glass, in Reform weddings, some couples choose to smash the glass together as a symbol of equality.
Choosing between an Orthodox, Conservative, or Reform wedding isn’t about “right” or “wrong”it’s about what resonates with you as a couple.
No matter which path you take, your wedding should be a beautiful, meaningful reflection of your love, your faith, and your future together.
Mazel tov on your engagement, and happy wedding planning!
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Planning a Jewish wedding is an incredibly special and unique journey. Whether you’re having a traditional Orthodox wedding, a modern Reform ceremony, or something in between, you want every meaningful moment to be captured beautifully. Finding a photographer who not only takes stunning photos, understands Jewish traditions but also connects to your community and on a soulful level is key to ensuring your wedding day is documented in a way that reflects your heritage, love, and joy.
As a wedding photographer specializing in Jewish weddings, I know how important it is to hire someone who is familiar with the customs, timeline, and energy of these celebrations. In this guide, I’ll walk you through exactly what to look for in a photographer who will capture the essence of your big day with care and expertise.
Jewish weddings are rich with traditions, emotions, and once-in-a-lifetime moments. From the signing of the ketubah to the emotions under the Chupah all the way to the lively hora, every part of your wedding day tells a story, not only of your love, but the love of all Jewish marriages. A photographer who isn’t familiar with Jewish customs may miss key moments or fail to capture them in a way that truly honors their significance.
Here’s why hiring a photographer with experience in Jewish weddings matters:
When searching for the right photographer, keep these key factors in mind:
Ask potential photographers how many Jewish weddings they have photographed. If they have experience, they’ll be familiar with the structure and flow of the day, allowing them to be in the right place at the right time.
Questions to ask:
Jewish wedding traditions vary depending on whether the wedding is Orthodox, Conservative, Reform, Sephardic, Ashkenaz, Lubavitch, Chabad etc… A photographer who understands these nuances will be better prepared to capture each moment appropriately.
For example:
Jewish weddings are filled with deep emotions and high-energy celebrations. Your photographer should be able to switch seamlessly between intimate, emotional moments and fast-paced action shots. It takes an experienced Jewish Wedding Photographer to fully understand exactly when those switches will happen and how to navigate them!
For example:
If your wedding has specific religious guidelines, your experienced Jewish Wedding photographer will know how to honor those guidelines without a long explanation.
Things to discuss:
Ask to see a portfolio of previous Jewish weddings they have photographed. Look for:
Your photographer should not only be talented but also professional, communicative, and reliable. Look for someone who:
When you find the right photographer, you should feel confident that they will:
Your wedding day is one of the most meaningful days of your life, and your photos should reflect that. Choosing a photographer who understands Jewish weddings ensures that every tradition, emotion, and celebration is beautifully documented is absolutely game changing. And I need to say, after October 7th, it has become abundantly clear how important it really is to work with Jewish venders. There is nothing like watching Jewish love and Jewish tradition continue to lift up our community.
When searching for the perfect photographer, ask about their experience, review their portfolio, and ensure they align with your needs and values. The right photographer will not only take gorgeous photos but also honor your traditions, respect your customs, and capture the true spirit of your wedding day.
If you’re looking for a photographer who specializes in Jewish weddings and understands the significance of every moment, I’d love to connect! Let’s chat about how we can capture your dream wedding in a way that’s authentic, meaningful, and breathtaking.
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At Yael Pachino Photography, we specialize in capturing the beauty and traditions of Jewish weddings, ensuring that every memory is preserved with love and artistry. If you’re planning your wedding, we’d love to be part of your day! Reach out to us to discuss your vision and how we can make it come to life through stunning photography.
Mazel tov and happy planning!
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Jewish weddings are rich in tradition, symbolism, and culture, making them incredibly meaningful for couples, families and the entire community as a whole.
Whether you’re attending a Jewish wedding, planning your own, or just interested in the unique customs involved, this article will explain everything you need to know about Jewish wedding traditions and their significance!
The chuppah is a canopy under which the couple stands during their wedding ceremony. Symbolizing the home the couple will build together, it’s a beautiful representation of shelter, protection, and love.
The chuppah is often held up by four poles and can be decorated with flowers or fabric. The open sides of the chuppah are meant to represent the couple’s willingness to welcome friends and family into their new home.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
The chuppah is a central aspect of Jewish wedding ceremonies, and the design can vary greatly depending on personal style and preference.
While some couples opt for simple wooden structures, others go all-out with elaborate designs featuring fabric, flowers, or even greenery. A unique chuppah helps add a personal touch to the ceremony and sets the tone for the wedding! Your florist and Event Planner can help bring your Chuppah vision to life!
A ketubah is the Jewish marriage contract. It’s an important document outlining the couple’s obligations to each other. Traditionally, it’s signed by two witnesses and is often beautifully decorated.
After the wedding, the ketubah is typically displayed in the couple’s home as a reminder of their commitment.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
The ketubah is not just a legal document; it’s also a deeply emotional part of the wedding ceremony. It outlines the rights and responsibilities of the husband toward the wife, ensuring that she will be supported and cared for.
While the ketubah is traditionally written in Aramaic, many modern couples today choose to have it in English, Hebrew or both Hebrew and English, especially in Reform weddings.
The Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings) are recited during the wedding ceremony and at the end of the Reception right after everyone recites the prayers of Grace after Meals.
These seven blessings are also recited at the subsequent seven days of celebrations, typically at a dinner. These blessings express gratitude for the creation of the world, joy in the couple’s union, and the hope for a future filled with love and peace.
The Seven blessings are traditionally said in Hebrew, but many couples choose to have both the Hebrew blessings and English versions of the blessings under the Chuppah. Having both is a beautiful way to include tradition with a modern twist to make sure everyone can appreciate the special blessings.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
These blessings include words of praise for God’s creation, the gift of marriage, and the celebration of love and life. In many Jewish wedding traditions, these blessings are recited in Hebrew, and family members and friends take turns reciting them at the wedding celebration.
These blessings are repeated during the week-long festivities that follow the wedding, known as Sheva Brachot dinners.
Before the wedding ceremony, the kabbalat panim is the reception where the bride and groom are greeted by family and friends. Traditionally, the bride and groom are separated, and each receives guests in their respective areas.
Common in Orthodox and Conservative weddings, though not a standard practice in Reform weddings.
The kabbalat panim is a time of joyful celebration before the wedding ceremony begins.
While the groom and bride traditionally celebrate separately, the mingling and excitement build anticipation for the ceremony. This tradition allows both families and friends to enjoy the occasion together before the formalities begin.
The tisch is a traditional pre-wedding gathering where the groom, family, and friends celebrate together before the ceremony.
It’s often lively and includes singing and dancing, especially with the groom’s male relatives and friends. The groom is usually seated at the head of the table, and the atmosphere is filled with joy and excitement.
The tisch sets the stage for the festivities to come and allows the groom to relax and enjoy the support of his loved ones.
Common in Orthodox and Conservative weddings, but not typically observed by Reform Jews.
The tisch is a key part of the Orthodox and Conservative Jewish wedding experience. The groom’s close friends and family gather around, singing and sharing moments of joy before the ceremony.
It’s a time for the groom to relax and focus on the joy of the occasion before the formalities of the wedding.
It is a cherished tradition for the groom to share words of Jewish wisdom. As he speaks, his family and friends joyfully interrupt with songs and dance, infusing the moment with lively celebration and communal spirit.
The bedekin is the veiling ceremony that takes place just before the couple’s wedding ceremony. The groom places a veil over the bride’s face, symbolizing modesty and the groom’s acceptance of the bride’s inner beauty.
During an Orthodox and Conservative wedding, this usually takes place right after the Tisch. The groom walks or dances his way to the bride with the whole community with him, once he is in front of the bride, he goes to her and puts the veil over her head to cover her face.
Commonly practiced by Orthodox and Conservative Jews, though some Reform weddings may include it based on personal preference.
The bedekin is a beautiful and symbolic ritual, highlighting the groom’s commitment to his bride.
It’s a moment of intimacy before the ceremony begins, and it is a very traditional part of Orthodox and Conservative Jewish weddings. It is also a time for the families to come together and celebrate the union. In Reform weddings, the veil may be less emphasized, and couples may choose to focus on other elements of the ceremony.
During the ceremony, the couple exchanges rings as a sign of their commitment to one another. In Jewish tradition, the groom typically places the ring on the bride’s index finger and recites a blessing.
The ring is traditional a gold band. A simple, unbroken circle shape represents a marriage without conflict or distraction.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
The ring exchange is one of the most important moments in the Jewish wedding ceremony.
In Orthodox traditions, the ring is given without any markings or gemstones, representing the couple’s pure and eternal bond.
While this is the most common custom, Reform Jews may opt for a ring that has more personalization, such as engraving or the inclusion of gemstones.
At the end of the wedding ceremony, the groom (and sometimes along side the bride) breaks a glass, typically wrapped in a cloth, with his foot.
This act has multiple interpretations, including the reminder of the destruction of the ancient Temple in Jerusalem and the hope that the couple’s marriage will be filled with both joy and sorrow, as life is full of contrasts.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
Breaking the glass is one of the most iconic traditions at Jewish weddings.
The sound of the glass shattering symbolizes the breaking of the couple’s past life as they begin their new life together. In some traditions, guests shout “Mazel Tov!” immediately after the glass is broken, signaling the celebration of the couple’s future.
After the ceremony, the couple spends a few moments in private, called yichud. This tradition allows the couple to be alone together for the first time as newlyweds, reflecting on the commitment they’ve just made. It also symbolizes their new status as a married couple.
Common across all branches: Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform.
The yichud period is a moment of quiet reflection and intimacy after the chaos of the wedding ceremony. The couple is in a secluded room where they can enjoy their first moments as husband and wife.
This practice is observed in both traditional and more modern Jewish weddings, providing a peaceful pause in the celebration.
In both Orthodox and Conservative traditions, the Rabbi will inspect the Yichud room beforehand to ensure it is properly secluded and free of any other guests.
Once the bride and groom enter and settle into the room, the door is closed behind them, and two witnesses stand guard outside to ensure their privacy, maintaining the sacredness of this intimate moment.
In Jewish weddings, the groom is referred to as the chatan and the bride is called the kallah.
These terms reflect the couple’s roles in the wedding ceremony and signify the joyous occasion.
Common across all branches: Orthodox and Conservative
The terms chatan (groom) and kallah (bride) are used throughout the wedding ceremony to refer to the couple. These words are a sign of respect and are used when referring to the individuals being united in marriage.
While they are commonly used across all Jewish traditions, you may also hear these terms in other aspects of Jewish life, such as during blessings or prayers.
Jewish weddings are beautiful, deeply rooted in tradition, and filled with meaningful rituals that symbolize love, commitment, and faith.
Understanding these terms will help you better appreciate the beauty and significance of a Jewish wedding and the many layers of meaning that come with this joyous celebration.
Whether you’re planning the wedding, attending your first Jewish wedding, or something in between, knowing the meanings behind these terms can deepen your connection to the experience.
Jewish weddings are a celebration of love, life, faith and tradition and each term, custom, and ritual plays a vital role in honoring that legacy.
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Planning a Jewish wedding can be one of the most meaningful experiences and also one of the most overwhelming places.
As someone who has captured countless Jewish weddings, I know how vital it is to find a photographer who truly understands your vision and the traditions that make your day unique.
Your photographer will be the one preserving your cherished rituals and heartfelt moments.
To help you find the perfect match, here are ten essential questions to guide your conversations with potential photographers
Jewish weddings have unique customs and traditions, so it’s important to work with someone familiar with them. From the breaking of the glass to the chuppah ceremony, experience ensures nothing gets missed.
Personally, I always make sure to talk to the officiant or Rabbi before the ceremony begins to make sure I know exactly what to expect.
Two questions I always ask: (1) Which direction will the bride and groom stand during the ceremony? and (2) where will the Rabbi place the glass on the floor before the smashing of the glass!
Both of those questions, change my game plan for how I photograph the ceremony!
These moments are central to your celebration. A photographer with knowledge of these rituals will know when and how to capture them with sensitivity and precision.
There are specific traditions you can explain to someone until they are blue in the face, but if they haven’t experienced it before, they won’t truly understand what to expect and how to photograph it!
Jewish weddings often involve extended celebrations, and more traditions and rituals than most secular weddings. Ensure your photographer is comfortable working with a more flexible and potentially longer timeline.
For most secular weddings, I suggest at least 8 hours of coverage, but for Jewish Weddings, I suggest at least 9 or 10 hours, depending on how many traditions the couple is planning on!
Key religious moments, such as what happens under the chuppah and during the veiling of the bride, require a photographer who understands the importance of being unobtrusive while still capturing the beauty of the moment.
I always say, I will be under the chuppah for part of your ceremony with you, but I will be as quiet and as quick as a ninja so I can be the least disruptive as possible. I will never get in the way of the other people under the chuppah, but I will always be there to capture the special moments!
An experienced photographer is prepared for anything from sudden weather changes to tight timelines, ensuring your day goes smoothly and your photos turn out beautifully no matter the circumstances.
I always say that as a wedding photographer, you have to embrace the chaos and learn how to go with the flow… You can plan every moment to a T, but at the end of the day, 95% of wedding timelines run late or need to be adjusted in the moment and as the photographer you just got to roll with it, be confident and make sure your clients are as calm and as in the moment as possible!
I highly recommend two photographers for any Jewish wedding and even more so if you are planning on having a Tisch and Bedekin at your wedding!With so much happening simultaneously, having two photographers ensures every special moment is beautifully captured.
Many couples ask me if they should have three photographers, and I always say that if you are having less than 400 people at your wedding, two photographers is plenty! I find three photographers a little overwhelming for the couple, their family and their guests. We are there to enhance everyones experience and not overwhelm it!
Jewish weddings often include large and extended families. Your photographer should have a clear plan to efficiently organize and capture these important portraits.
I believe there is really only one way to make sure my couples get all the family combinations they (and their parents) could possibly want… and it is being bossy in the nicest way possible!
I ask my clients to write out a list of all the different family combinations they want so I can print the list, call them out and check them off as we go.
My goal is to go as quickly and as painless as possible when it comes to the family photos.
A reliable photographer should have backup cameras, lenses, and a contingency plan to ensure no technical issues disrupt their ability to capture your day.
I always bring three cameras, just in case, and I make sure every single photo I capture are recorded to two memory cards, just in case one is defective.
While highlight reels and Instagram posts are great, seeing complete galleries will give you a better sense of their style, consistency, and how they capture an entire event.
Social media is full of the best of the best, galleries are full of every single moment of a wedding day captured. It is a completely different viewing experience and I personally, like the full gallery experience better! Makes it all more real!
Jewish weddings are rich in tradition and meaning. Ask your photographer how they’ll highlight these elements, from embroidered tallitot to family heirlooms.
As someone who has stood under the chuppah at her own wedding and is now a proud, Jewish mama, I understand the importance of our culture and rituals in a deep way that makes me photograph those details with so much love and honor.
Mazel tov on this exciting chapter of your life! Your perfect photographer is out there, ready to capture every meaningful moment.
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