Jewish wedding tips

There’s something truly magical about being engaged. That moment when you look at each other and realize: we’re building a life together. If you’re recently engaged, Mazel Tov! Whether you’re still basking in the glow of the proposal or already knee-deep in color palettes and guest lists, this is one of the most meaningful seasons of your life.

As a Jewish wedding photographer who’s captured Jewish weddings all across the East Coast and in Israel for over a decade, I’ve had the joy of witnessing hundreds of couples bring their Jewish traditions to life in beautiful, heartfelt, and deeply personal ways. I also know how overwhelming wedding planning can feel, especially when you’re trying to honor your heritage while staying true to your unique love story.

This blog post is for you, the Jewish couple who wants their wedding to feel like a reflection of who they are, where they come from, and the life they’re building together!

Here are 10 things every Jewish engaged couple should know as you plan your big day:

1. There’s No One-Size-Fits-All Jewish Wedding

Whether you’re Orthodox, Reform, Conservative, secular, or somewhere in between, there’s no single “correct” way to have a Jewish wedding. The beauty of our tradition is how rich and layered it is. You can choose to include a traditional ketubah signing, a heartfelt bedecken, or a joyful horah on the dance floor, or all of the above. You can walk around your partner seven times, or meet each other halfway.

The key is this: make it yours. It’s okay to blend modern elements with tradition. Your wedding is a sacred, joyful reflection of your values and your journey.

2. The Chuppah is More Than Just a Pretty Arch

The chuppah, or wedding canopy, is one of the most symbolic elements of a Jewish wedding. It represents the home you are building together, open on all sides to welcome guests, yet grounded in tradition and intention.

Some couples use a tallit (prayer shawl) passed down from a grandparent, others have custom-made canopies with meaningful embroidery. Whatever you choose, let your chuppah tell a story. It’s not just décor — it’s a visual promise of your future home.

3. Give Yourself Time to Plan the Ketubah Thoughtfully

The ketubah isn’t just a marriage contract, it’s a powerful statement of commitment, love and togetherness. Today, couples can choose from traditional Aramaic texts to egalitarian Hebrew/English versions, and even poetic, personalized versions that speak to your values.

You’ll also want to work with an artist or select a design that matches your aesthetic. Many couples frame their ketubah and display it in their home, so think of it as both a legal document and a work of art. Don’t rush it!

4. The Hora Is a Workout, But It’s the Best One You’ll Ever Have

I always joke that photographing the hora is like running a marathon with a camera. It’s chaotic, sweaty, emotional, hilarious and so full of love.

If your crowd is the dancing type, make sure to tell your band or DJ in advance so they can build the energy and give it time to unfold. And here’s a tip: wear shoes that stay on. I’ve seen too many heels fly across the dance floor mid-hora.

5. Yes, the Bride Doesn’t Traditionally Sign the Ketubah… But That’s Changing

In Orthodox and traditional Conservative weddings, only the groom signs the ketubah (with two witnesses). The bride typically isn’t present at the signing. But many modern couples are choosing to have both partners sign an egalitarian ketubah or witness each other’s signatures.

Another popular trend is signing the ketubah under the chuppah so that the bride can be present for the moment. Ask your Rabbi what your options are. Jewish tradition is flexible when done with intention.

6. Sheva Brachot Can Involve the Whole Community

The Sheva Brachot (Seven Blessings) are one of the most sacred parts of a Jewish wedding ceremony, and an opportunity to involve the people who love you.

You can choose to have different friends or family members recite each blessing, in Hebrew or English. These blessings are ancient, poetic, and universal. They speak to joy, creation, and companionship, even if your guests aren’t fluent in Hebrew, they’ll feel the emotion behind them.

7. Build In Time for the Tisch and Bedeken — You Won’t Regret It

Talk to your planner and Rabbi early in the process about incorporating a full 30–45 minutes for the Tisch and Bedeken in your timeline. Make sure your photographer and videographer know these are must-capture moments.

Also, communicate with your family about how important these moments are to you. Whether you want a traditional version or something more modern, set the tone ahead of time.

And if you need help envisioning what a Tisch or Bedeken could look like in a more inclusive or progressive Jewish wedding, please do not hesitate to ask! I’ve got ideas and examples to share!

Whether you’re planning a deeply traditional Orthodox wedding or blending customs in a way that feels more you, the Tisch and Bedeken are powerful moments you’ll carry in your heart forever. Let yourself feel them. Let them hold you. And let your photographer capture them with the reverence and love they deserve.

8. Jewish Weddings Have a Flow, But It’s Okay to Make It Your Own

The traditional Jewish wedding structure looks like this:

• Kabbalat panim (greeting guests)
• Tisch and bedeken
• Ketubah signing
• Chuppah ceremony
• Breaking of the glass
• Yichud (private room for the couple)
• Reception with hora, blessings, dancing, and food

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to follow every step. You can have a more streamlined ceremony, blend traditions, or even hold a ketubah signing and cocktail hour on a separate day.

Talk to your Rabbi, planner, and photographer to create a timeline that works for you, logistically and emotionally.

9. Invest in Vendors Who Get Jewish Weddings

I can’t stress this enough. Jewish weddings move fast, have unique rituals, and are packed with emotional nuance. From the timing of the bedecken all the way to the hora dancing, having a team that understands your traditions means less explaining, more flowing.

When I photograph Jewish weddings, I don’t just document the rituals, I celebrate them and I anticipate them. I know when grandma’s about to tear up, when the rabbi is about to break into song, and when the dancing is going to get wild. That kind of intuitive storytelling only comes from experience and a deep understanding of the Jewish culture.

10. This Isn’t Just a Wedding, It’s a Sacred Link in the Chain of Our People

At every Jewish wedding, I think about the generations who came before us. The grandparents who fled, the ancestors who prayed, the couples who stood under a chuppah in times of peace and in times of war.

As you begin your life together, the sound of that breaking glass calls you to remember that your marriage isn’t just about the two of you, it’s also about your heritage and culture, the kind of home you’ll build, the community you’ll be part of, and the light you’ll bring into the world together.

Getting married as a Jew in 2025 is an act of love and resilience. You are writing the next chapter of a sacred story — one filled with laughter, prayer, dancing and so much joy!

Let that meaning carry you through the stress, the spreadsheets, and the seating charts. Your wedding is about more than centerpieces and first dances. It’s about the life you’re building, rooted in tradition, blossoming with hope.

If you’re engaged and trying to plan a wedding that feels like you, know this: you’re not alone. Lean on your community. Talk to your community. Trust your gut. And most importantly, don’t lose sight of what this whole journey is about; love, commitment, and the joy of building a Jewish home together.

And if you’re looking for someone to document and join in on every tear, every smile, and every spontaneous burst of dancing, you know where to find me!